I am one that dreads the kitchener stitch. I have found that rhymes and songs usually help me remember directions that I hate. Here is one that has helped me get over the dreaded kitchener stitch. It is posted on Knit Daily by KD Sandi.
The first step for the first stitch:
PURL the first stitch on the FRONT needle. DROP the stitch off the left front needle, and pull the yarn all the way through the dropped stitch so that there is no longer a stitch on the right (working) needle.
Now begin grafting:
PURL FRONT OFF — purl first st on front needle, drop st off
KNIT FRONT ON — knit next st on front needle, leave st on
KNIT BACK OFF — knit first st on back needle, drop st off
PURL BACK ON — purl next st on back needle, leave st on